My So-Called Love Life

This site -- my anthology -- is the story of a man, a young man, trying to find his way to love. Experiencing everything in between and serving you his heart on a silver-freaking-platter to the naked eye, for the whole world to see; relate, indulge, delve, and hopefully learn from his mistakes. Happy Dating! Copyright © 2004-2011, "My So-Called Love Life" ® Mario Ion. All Rights Reserved.

Wednesday, March 10, 2004

“The Eviction”

Shame... we all have it. We all deal with it, and we all avoid confrontation with it. But how can we ever ascertain our pride if we don’t deal with our shame first? We all try to deny off our shame by hiding, and keeping to ourselves, so that others won’t see our self-pity, our angst, our sorrow... our shame. We all try our best to be proud of ourselves, by making something of ourselves, for others. But then something happens... something compellingly life-changing. And our pride, our glory... has been taken over by shame, guilt, depression, and regret. Independence is something we all have, but there comes a time in life where you WILL need the help of someone else. I mean, we can’t ALWAYS resolve something on our own. So, until we evaluate our self-pity, we deal with the 5 Stages of Shame.

Stage 1) Anger
Stage 2) Depression
Stage 3) Re-assurance
Stage 4) Confrontation
Stage 5) Acceptance (and deciding to use the help of someone else)

Sometimes things in life are meant to be, so that we learn from our mistakes and grieve from our independence so that we can learn how to accept other’s as factors in our lives. Sometimes the help of someone else is all that you have to deal with whatever the problem(s) is. They say independence is the key to one’s own self... but how can that be true if we come to a point in our lives where we desperately seek the help of another? Or where the help of another is truly the only thing you’ve got... as a first AND last resort? I can’t help but wonder... When it comes to Independence....... being the ‘key’ to one’s own self....... does it really only hold the key to letdown?


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