My So-Called Love Life

This site -- my anthology -- is the story of a man, a young man, trying to find his way to love. Experiencing everything in between and serving you his heart on a silver-freaking-platter to the naked eye, for the whole world to see; relate, indulge, delve, and hopefully learn from his mistakes. Happy Dating! Copyright © 2004-2011, "My So-Called Love Life" ® Mario Ion. All Rights Reserved.

Thursday, April 26, 2007


Emotions are a tricky part in the game we call love.

There are the kind you feel, the kind you don't feel,
the kind you don't know if you feel, and the kind you don't want to feel.

When exposed to either of said matters, it's like opening Pandora's Box and struggling in a race to find balance. Balance, in this case, is a pendulum-esque exchange in power, or rather a reversal of roles... Ping-ponging responsibility and succumbing to compromise.

Where the emotions come in play, is the willingness to allow another person, for the sake of like/love, exploit your strengths and weaknesses to convince, if not manipulate you (in most cases) into this compromise.
Most people mistake emotions for those cookie-cutter high-school crushes we've all had; trading off reality for fantasy in an effort to keepsake childish endeerment.
But that's the fantasy of it.
The reality - less pleasing to embrace - is that a relationship isn't something you take for granted because of how it makes you feel, but rather what you can build and accomplish with this person, based on characteristics, logic, shared interest(s) and possibly even goals.

The topsy-turvy, though, is letting all the "stuff" in between cloud your initivate.
And it's that "stuff" that people often take for granted and allow to define what a relationship really is... Partnership.

Sunday, April 22, 2007

The Emancipation of Me

Where does one begin to explain himself, when asked to describe what he's looking for in terms of relationship ethics?
The problem isn't explaining it...
It is actually knowing what they want.

Particularly, I find no current interest(s) in being in a relationship;
No interest in the "One Night Stands,"
and indefinately no interest in the usual drama that tends to follow being in an emotionally-induced companionship.

It's not so much a disinterest in seeing someone, but rather a preference based on self-reservations and indulging in the little things, to compensate that of which they lack and desire, while sustaining a mutual comprehension of their worth to each other.

Essentially, I only want the smaller things to fulfill the lackluster:
Familiarity of seeing someone you get to know over time.
The inside jokes to help keep the bond entertaining, thus promoting a longer stay.
Sexual fulfillment, indulging in the acts without the aftermath of feeling rather whore-ish, because it took familiarity, laughter and common ground for the sex to happen...
Not a cocktail.

Thusfar promoting a naturally progressed relationship, with the solid substratum it takes to make it last.