My So-Called Love Life

This site -- my anthology -- is the story of a man, a young man, trying to find his way to love. Experiencing everything in between and serving you his heart on a silver-freaking-platter to the naked eye, for the whole world to see; relate, indulge, delve, and hopefully learn from his mistakes. Happy Dating! Copyright © 2004-2011, "My So-Called Love Life" ® Mario Ion. All Rights Reserved.

Saturday, November 13, 2010

Sex Ed 2010

There are a few good men in this world that are glorified by the actions they take. And the action we look towards the most is recurringly obvious - Sex. You see, sex in our modern society can be approached on so many different levels and in different ways, based on the purpose of the act itself. Personally I'm happy enough just pleasuring myself with my hand and some porno, while often times I need the presence of another man to reach a different level of climax.

I like to think men categorize themselves based on how they approach sex. There are those who fuck you and move on to the next one; those who make it a regular habit without any more strings than just to exclusively pleasure each other; the few shades of grey where a man approaches sex as means to getting closer to the other person, on an intimate level of course; and kind that consider sex the art of "making" love.

Sex has become quite the spectator sport, au contrair to what some of you may think. Media icons and celebrities alike share their bodies both on screen and paper to attract a large commodity of followers because, frankly, sex sells. We like seeing them in the act -- it arouses us, it stimulates our need for sexuality in our lives. While the blockbuster scenes are more steered towards arousing us sensually, the Pornography industry puts it all out there to arouse us sexually.

Men in our modern age make it a point to have as much sex as possible for whatever reason(s), whether they do it for a sport to keep their libido and blood-pressures active, or to tap into a subservient need to experience it with another person. I myself have always wondered what the big hype is, as I find sex to be easy -- I can do it with my hand. Sex for me is an approach to get more intimately familiarized with the person. The common man uses sex as a tool to become generally familiarized with the public, to make a name for himself or collect headcount for some twisted sense of sexual credential. It always bothered me that the term "Making Love" has become such the underdog, but alas, while few and far in between -- there are those who only allow sex to happen when they simply cannot get enough of the person; they look at intercourse as though they are penetrating into the person's mind, body, soul, and maybe even heart.

The term "Making Love" was derived way back when sex wasn't even as familiar to the common culture as it is now. When man can only do such a thing when he would bewed the mate he was destined for, or at least for marriage. ALA Seal the Deal much? I'd imagine that was the point. We've progressed passed such a tradition and evolved into a generation where sex is something you just do; be it to show interest in a person or even as an introduction, considering most equate sex with the shake of a hand.

The mystery remains as a subjective measure of what each individual person REALLY gets out of sex...
What's your excuse?

Monday, November 08, 2010

Yours, Anally

Relationships require a certain level of trust and excitement to keep things interesting. The most tasteful aspect in a relationship are the partners' sex lives. It embodies not only their emotions and feelings for one another, but also their desire and trust for each other. So it's no surprise that when my good friend approached me with her fears of Anal Sex with her boyfriend, I started to think.

As an adolescent peaking the prime of sexual awakening, one of our most deviant desires is to find that special someone to give your "innocence" to; someone you can trust, with whom is mutually and exclusively devoted to your feelings and desires. It takes a strong level of trust to allow someone into you, to penetrate you, and break you out of the sheltered shell in that of virginity. And the most actively thought out worry is that it will hurt. It wouldn't quite be like giving yourself to a stranger, you see - they don't know you, nor do they know how to handle you. And the moment the hymen breaks, or in general - the moment you allow someone into you for the first time, is a moment that you cannot replace.

When you're in a monogamous long-term relationship, Anal sex can be the most emotionally and physically pleasurable experiences you can experience. Loving someone to the extreme of giving that to them is amazing, and reliving a pseudo-virgin moment you, in most cases, either gave away carelessly or mistakenly, can spark an intense and more deeper (no pun intended) connection to your lover.

The thing that is most amazing about Anal sex is that it relives that one moment almost every time. No doubt it takes trust to allow it to happen, to know the man well enough that he knows how to handle you. Most men and perfect strangers are eager to just jam it in and get to it, failing to acknowledge the steps required to make it work - including the 30-second sting phase where you feel a terrible burning pain almost (usually) impossible to handle till that 30 seconds is up, and the sting dissipates. While bearing that first entry moment can be excruciatingly painful, getting passed it is when that moment starts to really live to your expectations - assuming of course your expectations were more higher than low.

The moment of entry will go however you allow it to. If you're tense and squirmy, it will be painful, as your anus muscle tightens and the canals of the anal wall swell. Steady breathing and relaxation is key.

The most common worry about Anal sex is the accident of leaving behind a chocolate surprise. And in most cases, it usually happens if you fail to navigate through the steps required to make Anal sex a success. Diet, for instance, plays a large part. Eating fatty foods and spicy foods is probably not the best idea if you plan on getting it up your tush. Some people don't eat anything at all the day of Anal sex, but starving yourself can prove to be awkward. You don't want your stomach growling while he's trying to or getting it in. I personally suggest eating light, salads and soft fluids. Timing your food and digesting is also a big key-point. Eating 5 hours before sex, and passing a bowel movement 2 hours before. And of course the cleansing / douching process an hour or two before anal. Yes, you CAN douche your ass. Summer's Eve works well, but if you find yourself shame-ridden and can't face buying it, a home enema can be conducted out of a rinsed and sanitized empty 15.9oz shampoo bottle, filled with warm soaped water; pulling off/unscrewing the nozzle to expose a small diameter that, when lubricated, can be placed just into your anus. Repeat the douche process 2-4 times.

A lot of people always ask "Well, what if you didn't plan the anal sex?" Frankly there's no such thing as unplanned Anal sex. If you want it to be clean and pleasurable, it NEEDS to be planned, or you at least need to be prepared.

When you are confident with yourself in knowing you took care of your shit (literally), by knowing the steps you took to prepare yourself, almost nothing can go wrong. But if you're nervous and afraid, well, "Scared Shitless" really can be more than an expression.